Excel comments resize

Am having a vexing problem with Excel 2021, but the same issue appears with other versions also. I insert comments with pictures, looks good.
If I insert or resize other columns (no comments), every comment in the worksheet wants to resize itself.
So I have to go through each one reset orginal size, set the size I currently use, lock size
All these comments under properties were originally marked as don't move or resize.
So I tried move but don't resize, still had the problem.
This happens both with pictures inserted into the comment, and also just text in the comment.
Did some google searches but didn't find anything to help.